He ran to the school bus. His backpack is a bit heavy, so while he ran he teetered left toward the culvert due to the slope of the mountainside we live on. As he ran his hair bounced on the top of his head. He didn’t fall into the culvert and he didn’t stumble climbing the school bus steps. He was full steam ahead and smiling. He turned four years old four days ago and now he’s on the bus for his first day of school. He waved to us as the bus drove higher into the mountain.
And with him leaving I felt empty. Megan began to cry and said, “I didn’t think I would cry, but I am.”
I was Gavin’s full time care giver from 0-3 years of age. My career declined, I didn’t care. Still don’t. From 3-4 he did go to daycare three days a week. I had my little guy two days per week and recently we took him out of daycare so I could have him back, all to myself, before school started.
I didn’t have a father when I was his age.
From 0 to roughly six months was the most difficult for me. I’m not sure everything was always natural. Loving him was, and holding him and feeding him. Putting his clothes on was not. My fingers are too big for infant clothing and I would become frustrated when I couldn’t get his tiny arms or legs into the clothing. Especially if he was cold and I wanted him to be warm.
I remember many morning simply sitting on the living room floor with him in between my legs. I would sit and stretch my legs into a V and he would bounce around and roll and explore the best he could. Eventually he stood. I have a photo of the first time he grabbed onto a couch cushion and pulled himself into the standing position. It wasn’t long after that he was running and jumping off of the couch. Lots of time outs.
One morning, while changing him, he coughed so hard it sounded like a bark and he couldn’t catch his breath. A funny wheezing sound followed by a another barking cough and difficulty breathing; I thought I was losing him. I held him close to my chest to calm him. He seemed to be afraid an panicking. This was among the most scared I have ever been as a parent. I was alone and needed a doctor and the infant I was holding was in pain and badly sick. Croup with stridor, a double ear infection and a fever doesn’t bode well for small bodies. It hit so suddenly, the sickness, and with such force that I began to cry while dialing the doctors office. I told myself to calm down and I did, but it was hard to speak.
And just now we watched Gavin run, with his backpack on, toward the bus, which was parked on an incline, as he teetered toward the culvert and steamrolled his way onto the bus. Ready for his new chapter.
And I sit and write and relive the entire thing. Since day one.
Matt
Youβre a great daddy, Matt! Thanks for sharing these moments.
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Thank you π
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Yes, indeed.
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So precious. Thanks for sharing!
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It reminds me a lot of my feelings when my kids started school. My son was the first, so I was a bit more emotional than I was expecting too.
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Impactful memories!
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Beautifully penned! I can relate to your post,as my daughter will be starting her Nursery next week and I am already teary-eyed.
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It was truly a wonderful moment π I hope yours goes smoothly
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You are a great dad to your child! He also looks very cute.π₯°π₯°
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Thanks he is a good kid π
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π this went straight to my heart.
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I think that’s good, yea? π
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Itβs excellent! π
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Agreed. This kind of bond transcends most everything.
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Right? Warms my heart just thinking about it. Pure sweetness.
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This is so beautiful and touching Matt. Wow! I am not a father yet, but the emotion conveyed through this is so powerful, I can feel it. You’re an amazing person. You’re a great father!
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thank you. do you hope to become a father??
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ummm…well, ehhhh no, I don’t. But, honestly, if a special woman comes by and changes my mind then I guess I might become a father π
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Just my opinion, youβd make a great father. However it works out, cheers to either outcome!
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Thank you! I’ve been told that a lot actually haha. But we shall see π
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What a cute and a adorable child! You are a great and a caring dad. You sacrificed your career for him.That is a thing that, only few dads will do…..
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Thank you. It was an easy decision
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π Ok. Great….
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The greatest gift, being a parent β€οΈ
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Certainly is!
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To me, four still seems so young to be going to school! My daughter’s birthday is at the end of August so she will be very young when starting school, just like your son. I recently quit my job due to health issues, and I’m so happy I get to spend all my time with my daughter, because in two years time, school full time!
Hope he’s enjoying school.
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Iβm sorry to learn of your health. Congrats on leaving your position and having more time with your daughter. I hope it becomes an incredible memory. He is enjoying school. And the big bus lol. He wasnβt asleep today when they dropped him off.
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Thanks! Yes, every second spent with her I cherish and I know just how lucky I am to have this relationship and her β₯
Oh good, and who doesn’t love a big bus! How exciting, bless him!!
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Beautiful Matt! I would say you are a wonderful father for sure! I would love to have memories like that to cherish.
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Thanks! He’s a joy. It’s so very strange to watch him ride away on the bus, but it’s also great.
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All part of growing, for kids and parents! Enjoy your day!π
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Hello mtaggartwriter I have nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award. You are deserving of this Nomination. I hope you will take part and it is on my page. Hope to read your reply !
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Sweet! Wonderful writing βοΈ too!
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He’s a good boy π
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